I received the below e-mail from caliBob in response to my last post. It was too long for comments so I am posting it here. In his response, he describes his weekly review sessions with his wife, which also includes maintenance spanking. It is wonderful to read about how others are using discipline or review sessions. I also enjoyed hearing about the Journey Bible that he described in his response. Thank you calibob for sharing your personal experiences and thoughts. This is a great example of putting ideas to practice and I hope it inspires others to do the same.  -Mz KAylee.

Thank you Mz Kaylee for a very insightful “Motivating your Husband” post, at least insightful as it pertains my wife, to me, and our WLM.

I printed out your post so we could read it together during our Monday night “Review Session” this week.  We try to sit down together every Monday evening to review my successes and failures during the week.  We begin by me reading through what we call our Journey Bible.  It is nothing more than a list of promises I have made to her, and to myself, that I try to live up to each day.  The promises are listed under four heading, Love, Honor, Service and Obey.  After reviewing through each portion of the Journey Bible we have a discussion of how she felt the week went, and I have a chance to add my thoughts as well.  This time together is so important to us.  Our communication has never been better, largely because we instituted review sessions into our lives. 

After we have discussed my attitude, voice and overall demeanor over the previous week we often have a discussion about FLR/WLM based either from books I have bought or from blogposts such as yours.  This gives us ideas to advance our WLM and often validates things we are doing in ours.   My wife and I both value your posts highly, and as my wife commented this week, she is particularly encouraged by reading another couples real life practice of dominance and submission.  She sees a lot of me in your writings about Thomas, and I can only hope she is inspired by you and will push herself to be more forward with her dominant voice and actions.

 In addition to Review, for the past year or so, she has added a “maintenance” time after review.  Maintenance requires me to prepare our bedroom for me to be maintenance spanked.  She sends me to our room and gives me a few minutes to prepare.  The routine is like this:  I set out all of her various spanking implements, two tawses (long and short), two short paddles (one wood, one leather) one long rubber strap paddle, one riding crop, and one long heavy plastic paddle with air holes).  These are set on the dresser along side her long handled bath brush that is always sitting on the dresser.  Her Bath Brush is her punishment implement, and she does not use it in a maintenance session.   I place a large king size pillow on the bed (covered by a towel, as she will have me lay on it to elevate my butt into the air.  She likes the presentation, the angle for swatting and she wants no messes on her bedding from uncontrolled leaking).  I then completely disrobe, neatly folding my clothes, and kneel with knees separated, at the end of the bed, clasping my hands behind my back.  She wants me kneeling on my heels, sitting tall, chest out, head up, as if she wants me to be a proud submissive.  She may take her time to come into the room, or she may come quickly, I never know.  I must be prepared and ready by the time she gets to the room.  Typically, she selects and uses four of her spanking implements, ranging her swats from 14 to 20 for each one she chooses.  If, during review she has determined that I have had a bad week, she may add punishment swats with her Bath Brush after maintenance.  The number of punishing swats vary depending on the infraction, but they differ significantly in their impact, and I do not like being on my side of that paddle. 

We both have found that maintenance is something we both enjoy.  She likes it because she feels empowered by my submission to her, and she tells me that she knows my submission is sincere because of the redness in my ass cheeks.  She likes that she has gotten better at utilizing her tools, understanding each one and their effectiveness in getting my attention.  She has had me “rate” each one, and “rate” the force of impact she gives as well.  So, she is truly learning.  We had to take about a month off due to some medical issues, and I know she really missed it from her side.

I, too missed it.  Like our weekly “Review Session”, it is one of times when I feel most submissive.  During Review I have promised to never refute or argue about what my wife has to say to me about my behavior or voice.  If she has an issue with something I have said or done I feel like it is my job to see the issue from her point of view first.  There has never been a time that, when I look at an issue using her viewpoint, that I don’t see the error of my ways.  This is quite humbling.  “Maintenance” is also quite humbling.  As a professed submissive to my wife, being told to set up for a paddling, to strip, to kneel, to present my ass for a spanking is very humbling.  And, strangely enough I like it.

So, we read your latest post and discussed it at length last Monday.  I expressed my desire to be pushed harder on my submission, and that using some of the ideas presented by you would be a good start.  Since Monday she has been more in tune with her comments, her touches, her wants and needs.  I told her that I feel different when I do chores because she requested me to do them, than if I just do them because it is what I do.  I asked her to use her voice more.  We agreed that she will ask me what my plans are for the day, and in the evening, she will ask me what it is I did while she was at work.  She told me she no longer wants me to just do things and wait for her to notice, she wants to be told what was done.  She has taken it upon herself to be more forward with me on my body.  Since Monday, she has touched me sensually and groped me wantonly, just for quick teases.  I tell her, “Thank you Ma’am”, and smile.  It surprises and is somewhat off putting when she does these quick teases, but I like that she is taking liberties with me at unusual times and places. 

My reply has ended up a bit long winded, and I apologize for that.  Again, thank you for a very meaningful post.  It was like an arrow launched directly at us.  It reminded me that I must work to not interfere with her leading, and it reminded her that leading requires some work.  But it also showed us that from both sides that work can be fun and enjoyable, as well as beneficial and rewarding for both Dom and sub.