I generally lump together uxos that are unattached, and uxos that are in a long term relationship, where neither type of uxo is in an FLR. But this post is just for the unattached uxos.

It seems that many unattached uxos are searching for a woman somewhat like me. Ruthlessly dominant, pitilessly cruel, sexually aroused when inflicting my dominance and my mean malevolence on my uxo. So this post is about what type of woman you should be looking for. I want you to avoid a big mistake so many of the uxos who I have been one-to-one coaching have made, in their selection of a female partner. An understandable mistake, but often a seemingly fatal one.

Required potential Domme traits

I have mentioned before but I will mention again, 99 percent of vanilla selfish women, especially attractive, vanilla selfish women will not be suitable for evolving into running an FLR. The reason is simple: A selfish vanilla woman will simply exploit the hard work and selflessness from the uxo male, without any interest or effort in ticking the uxo’s boxes.

It requires an unselfish and kind woman to take the time, and make the effort, to firstly understand the irrationality of the uxo’s needs, and then set out to meet them in a symbiotic way that satisfies both parties, like I have. How are the two approaches different? Let us look at household chores for an example.

An uxo that sets about taking on all the chores will find a selfish vanilla woman will joyfully accept his role in so doing. But if and when the uxo slacks-off, she will simply be OK with that, or worse and most often, moan and whine about it, do some herself, but nothing more. A selfish vanilla woman will never insist a chore is done again because it was not done to her satisfaction. A selfish vanilla woman will never punish her man for slacking off. A selfish vanilla woman will never try to, or succeed in understanding what the uxo needs. She is not interested in what he needs.

A kind vanilla woman, who has made the effort to understand the uxo’s need, (to feel helplessly in the power of a dominant with a mean streak), will punish the uxo if and when the uxo slacks-off on shores. She will also have the uxo do again, any chore not completed to her satisfaction. And quite often have the uxo do again, a chore that has been completed to her satisfaction; just because she can! This approach also causes the kind vanilla woman to begin to suspend some of her ‘kindness’, as the feeling of power is addictive and she begins to evolve and lose her vanilla label. Wielding power with cruelty will begin and grow. I have described myself in this paragraph, I can confirm that a when a kind vanilla woman experiments with wielding power with meanness, because it seems tp bring her uxo man contentment, she becomes addicted, she wants it more often, she becomes aroused. And seeing it works for both parties, the evolution begins and becomes ever more ‘intense’.

I have chosen chores as an example, but there are many other examples, such as, an unequal amount of sexual satisfaction in the FLR, and tease and denial and a chastity device for the uxo. A selfish vanilla woman will not experiment in this area or make any effort. A kind vanilla woman will explore this area, and again, the addiction to wielding power with cruelty and the arousal, will grow, and grow, and grow! There is nothing in the human relationship experience as the symbiosis of what I have described.

Women who are not ‘vanilla’

The above was about vanilla women. There are however heterosexual radical feminists, and lesbian feminists and man-hater feminists, which, for the sake of this post I will not label ‘vanilla’, as this group usually consider they are superior to men and / or actively dislike men.

At first flush, this group sound ideal for starting an FLR with an uxo, but 99 percent of them, when in a relationship with an uxo male, or approached by an uxo male, who then explains his uxo needs, will consider him a disgusting pervert, with selfish fetishes and perversions that she will absolutely not be indulging him in, as though she is some sort of prostitute! (There are however a 1 percent of radical man-hater feminists who will exploit an uxo, but in my experience of these ‘relationships’, the uxo can end up with some very unwanted phenomena, like his uxoness being exposed to all his family, or total and crippling financial domination. It works for some though.

Then there are non-uxo women who are already dominant and cruel and will look for a long term partner at fetish and BDSM clubs, or online in places like Fetlife. But there are around 100 uxos searching for a long term partner for each one of these women, so other avenues have to be sought for most uxos.

My book for uxos

This is one small topic I cover in my book for uxos, but the. ‘attractive selfish woman phenomenon‘ is such a common mistake I felt it deserved a blog post.

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