Annoyed

I didn’t set out to be part of the BDSM fringe community. I was pulled in by a man who was so conflicted by his own interests it was tearing apart our lives.

One thing I didn’t expect when I got pulled in into the BDSM lifestyle…was to become an advocate for debunking the myths that surround the lifestyle and the people who participate. I never expected to be dragging out my over used soap box to battle the ignorance that surrounds the lifestyle and people.

*plops soap box soundly on floor*

Reblogged:
http://thesuburbandomme.com/2015/02/10/an-interest-in-bdsm-is-an-indication-your-spouse-is-cheating/

I’m not an authority on relationships…nor BDSM. I don’t need to be an authority on either one to see dangerous ignorance when it is right under my nose.

The statement bobeep heard…is dangerous ignorance and a pet peeve for me.
The statement was above and beyond irresponsible.

Coming out of the mouth of someone who has a public speaking platform and what appears to be hordes of groupies…..makes it dangerous.
The “reading between the lines” statement……. in the statement made…is kinky people are cheaters because of the sexual proclivities they own.

I’ve spent a little over seven years now…getting to know people who are part of the BDSM community on many levels. One thing I have discovered over and over ……….is the fact…..the vast majority respect the sanctity of relationship boundaries.

The group isn’t a bunch of lecherous heathens. They aren’t hanging out waiting to hook up with anyone who happens to pop into the BDSM world…and everyone I know thinks cheating in WRONG. I am so fed up with the notion if you are kinky…you have no scruples. This talk show host just perpetuated that notion in stereo.

People cheat….not because of a lifestyle choice….they cheat because they make that choice in their life. A specific sexual proclivity isn’t going to induce them into cheating.

Anyone who cheats……cheats for reasons only they know…being interested in the BDSM life style…does not mean they are going to cheat. Everyone I know in the lifestyle eschews cheating and the ones who would do so.
As I type away here..I have Monssieur Notasub getting ready for work…..he asked me why I am “angry typing”…..I explained it to him and he smirked and said:
“Gee, maybe the comment was a brilliant statement by a savvy talk show host to get a bigger following? Riding the coat tails of the hype of the Grey hyperbole? Maybe she’s not getting the attention she needs to draw in the funds she wants…so she has jumped on the BDSM band wagon….by way of bashing the band wagon? Maybe she wanted a fight with BDSM community for the ratings factor?”

hhuuuurrrummmppphhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
On that note…..I’m going after more coffee and then a run. If I don’t work some of this annoyance off…I will kill my key board.

Source: The Suburban Domme