Somewhat recently, I had an inspiration while watching one of those  older period type movies where one of the female role characters was writing into her diary each day for therapy and reflection. I had one of those epiphany moments as I saw that. Implementing something along those lines could become a useful tool for us to use in our FLR relationship! As result, into my marital tool box which now contains several of his chastity devices, a couple of punishment straps of various types and various other tools and toys of the dominants wife's trade, we have added his daily journal into the mix. Actually, I have made it a point of the fact that the journal belongs to me, it is [...]

A topic that often comes up in Wife Led Marriage (WLM) discussions is how the finances should be handled. Whether you are in a WLM or not, you (the Female) should be involved with the finances to ensure money is not being carelessly spent. In a WLM, the wife should not just be involved with the money, she should have control over the finances and restrict her husband's access to funds. Controlling the finances gives her real power over him and also keeps him from spending carelessly. Additionally, by restricting his spending, it forces him to choose wisely on how to spend his limited funds, which can help keep him out of trouble.  For example, a late night at the bar with friends [...]

My desire to make our WLM more public has two main reasons, one altruistic and the other selfish. The first reason is that most of my women friends want to know how and why it is that Tony is such a perfect gentleman and wonderfully obedient husband; most of them know that he was not that way when he and I first got together. So they keep asking me, “What have you done to train him so well?” The second reason is that I find my power over him to be great for my ego and also very erotic, and the more public my power is the more it turns me on, both mentally and physically.As I have related, our marriage did not [...]

I want to thank Joan for bringing up the topic of 'the husband's time with friends,' in the comments in my March 28th post. For reference, here are the comments she made:"I'm a little less strict about allowing him some time to be with his friends (they love the outdoors) because he does so much work. I'm flexible with certain expectations, but I'm won't tolerate things not getting done, if that makes sense". "With job stress and Mistress Joan to answer to, he needs a break and earns the downtime I permit. With that said, he knows to conduct himself properly and avoid any and all problems, especially when the men are out in the forest camping and having a few beers. I think [...]

 I am enjoying the increased participation from the Female readers of this blog. It is nice for me to hear what other females are experiencing in their WLMs, how they feel about different topics, and to know that I am not alone in what I am experiencing or thinking. I've already picked up a few good ideas from the comments over the last few weeks.  Thank you for those who have participated through comments or guest posts!! I hope more females will comment and share their experiences or ask questions/ask for advice. This is a great forum to learn and understand the WLM and femdom lifestyles.-Mz Kaylee Female Perspective The Ultimate Male Chastity Key Holding Experience

My control over my husband has become stronger and tighter over the years and it continues to tighten year after year. Each year there is more structure added to our Wife Led Marriage (WLM) either through new rules and requirements or new routines or both. He went from doing a few chores to doing almost all the chores, to being required to have the chores done by a specific time and to specific requirements defined by me. In the early years there were a few fun basic rules for him but now his entire day is shaped by rules and requirements imposed by me. This includes things such as making me coffee and breakfast in the morning, not sitting in 'my chair', taking [...]

 Personally, I like dominating a “manly man” It seems as if many husbands in Wife-Led Marriages have a desire to be feminized in their submissiveness, and many wives enjoy doing so. That works in many marriages, and that’s fine. While we do a little of that in our marriage, we mostly avoid it. I want my submissive husband to be as manly as possible; it excites me to have power over a “manly man,” rather than over a feminized one. My husband is much taller than me and much stronger. And yet I can snap my fingers and make him do my bidding. That’s sexy! I like my husband to dress as a man, for instance. He does not wear panties or other [...]

Before, I get into the next phase of Thomas's training, I want to point out something that I should have in the previous post. MK left a comment on my last post that reminded me that gags cause a lot of drool. Something I learned in researching what gag to buy was that drooling is actually what many dominants want as it adds to the humiliation of the sub. My goal with the training was not to cause Thomas to drool but was about having something forced into his mouth so that he could not talk. I also read that gags can be very uncomfortable and should not be worn for long periods of time. Many sites recommended no more than 20 minutes. [...]

A good submissive is one that makes himself useful and valuable to his owner/wife. The more useful he becomes to her, the more easy it is for her to enjoy and embrace the FLR/WLM lifestyle. It is not all about sexual domination. The guest post below demonstrates this perfectly. I love the new skill that Edward is developing and refining, as well as the training method employed.  -Mz Kaylee  Never Too Old To Learn Something Newby EdwardAbout eight months ago, I was sitting in the family room watching a show on Netflix, while my wife was sewing up a tear she had put into the leg of her blue jeans.  I casually mentioned to her that I had seen a documentary named “The True [...]

As promised, this is a follow-up post on behavior modification. In this post I share my experience with  a new training project that I have done with my husband. If you are a regular reader of my blog, you may remember that I regularly enforce no talking days. The reasons for no talking days are to remind him of my control over him and to give him regular time to reflect on his submission to me and how he can better serving me. I also enjoy the quiet time. During no talking days, if I ask a question, he can respond, but it has to be short and to the point. He can text me questions or information and he is allowed to [...]