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So your husband says he wants to be submissive to you. (or you
want him to be submissive to you). Well here is a list of things you may
want to do with him, one at a time, as a proof of his submissive. This
should all be done in loving, mutual fun way with the realization that
arrest or public embarrassment can affect careers and relationships. So
have fun, be careful and giggle and kiss a lot…

He should be shaved. Yes, that’s right, his pubic hair should be
shaved off and he should keep himself smooth and stubble free from now
on…

Right after he shaves for the first time, have him sit on the edge of
the bed, lie back and pull up his knees. You’re going to stick your
finger into his ass. Yes, you’re going to finger fuck him. You will need
a rubber glove and some lubricant, Vaseline, butter, olive oil,
whatever. He is going to be extremely embarrassed to present himself to
you in this fashion, his anus is a very private spot, not seen or
touched by anyone. That is why you’re doing this. Once he is in position
and holding his cheeks apart, lubricate your middle finger and his
asshole and slowly press your finger to his opening. Slowly start to
enter him. Look into his eyes as you penetrate him. Talk to him and have
him talk to you as you both experience his submissiveness to you and
this act of penetration. Think about what he is allowing you to do, he’s
naked, shaved and your finger fucking his ass. Pull on his cock and
balls as you slide in. Go in as far as you can, slowly. Look into his
eyes when you are in all the way and tell him you are in all the way.
Ask him how if he likes it. This may be the first time you are inside
his body, enjoy the power exchange…

He needs a good cock teasing at least once a day. This doesn’t mean
he’s going to have an orgasm, in fact he is not. But he needs to be hard
and brought to the edge of an orgasm at least one time a day, either by
you, or for you. “For you”, means bringing himself close to orgasm and
stopping. Yes, this means masturbating for you, on demand. Two things
here. One, he must learn to tell you he is about ready to orgasm and ask
you to stop and he must learn to masturbate for you, and stop. Orgasm
control is a powerful psychological aspect for a submissive man, and you
too will learn to enjoy your teasing and control. It is another
important power exchange with you controlling the single physical aspect
of maleness that is maleness alone, a hard cock and orgasm at will.
This also means that unsupervised masturbation must end, and he will
only orgasm with your permission. Orgasm denial is part of this teasing…

Nudity, him naked, you dressed. This should be done at awkward times,
odd times, whenever you like, when he least expects it. Obviously if
you’re going to tease his cock, make him strip. Make him strip even if
you are not going to tease him. If he doesn’t usually sleep naked, he
should now. In fact, anytime he is in your bedroom he should be naked.
At some point, make sure you bring him to every room in the house naked.
Lead him to each room naked, by his cock, the basement, laundry room
and garage, all will now hold memories of your control…

Nudity outside is more problematic, but should be attempted. Start
with outside of your home late at night. Be careful to pick a night when
you know your neighbors are away. Again, at night put him in the
passenger seat of your car and tell him to strip. Put the seat all the
way back. Pick some back roads and drive slowly and carefully, and
don’t drink. If you like, a highway may give a glimpse of his nudity to a
trucker. He wouldn’t like that, you may. Reach over with one hand and
keep him hard reminding him not to cum. Don’t stay out long, fifteen
minutes should be enough. Pick a secluded place where you can stop to
allow him to dress so he doesn’t interfere with your driving…

Embarrassment is also part of the fun. Be careful not to embarrass
him or yourself in font of friends or co-workers. This must be done
carefully and for the fun aspect of your dominance. Ordering wine and
his dinner at a restaurant is a simple start, and one he will enjoy.
While with friends for drinks or dinner, whisper in his ear, “what do
you think they would think knowing you’re shaved, knowing I own your
orgasms”. After his yearly physical ask him if the doctor said anything
about his shaving.. If he works out in a gym, ask him if other men are
shaved and what they look like, are they big, circumcised, big balls,
small balls, compare them to him. If you have one girlfriend you can
trust, and you probably don’t, arrange an “accidental” flash. Remember,
it only appears as an accident to your girlfriend, your guy might not
like it but he’ll cooperate. He is in gym shorts and a tee shirt and
that is it. You can grab him and tickle him in front of your friend,
accidentally pulling down his shorts exposing him, then after all the
hooting and hollering, pull then all the way down and step on them. He
will have to step out and run. Remember, he knows this is coming so he
may be hard, and of course he is shaved. You can have a quick laugh with
your friend and tell her you better see if he is OK. Go to the bedroom,
strip him, grab his cock and lead him back to your girlfriend, saying,
“well you have already seen him naked, you may as well get a better
look.” Doing the same thing in front of a couple would be more than
twice as embarrassing…

You should orgasm much more than he does. That goes without
question, his submissiveness definitely translates into you cumming
more. You need to teach him how to orally please you better, and as
often as you like. I know this may seem odd, but a tongue up your ass
will feel great, and he wants to do it for you, so tell him that is now a
part of your oral pleasure. Don’t worry, you don’t’ have to do it for
him.

Back rubs, foot rubs, leg rubs, body massages,
anything you think you might like you should try, and then do as much as
you like. He loves every minutes of doing anything for you, especially
if he is physically close to you.

Help with house work,
yard work and generally being a better partner is assumed. He can also
learn to cook with your teaching. He is not your slave, but he can be a
more than a 50% partner in the house holds chores you don’t like doing.
Delegate, delegate, delegate. He will not do things if you don’t tell
him to do them, and show him how you want them done. He can’t read your
mind, so tell him when he is doing something wrong, but more importantly
tell him when he is doing something right, and ask him to do it again.

It’s
not all about sex but a lot of his submission is. You need to talk to
him and ask him what turns him on or off. Ask him what he expects and
wants. Tell him what you expect and want. Keep an open mind and don’t
freak out if he has some silly fetishes. He is sharing everything with
you and no one else, so even if it seems pretty odd or nasty, try it,
make him do it, whatever.

There is only one thing that all
submissive men must learn to do. You should have this conversation with
him in a non-sexual environment, so the reality of the requirement is
finite, unequivocal and a given. Every time he orgasms, he must consume
his ejaculate. That’s right, you heard me correctly. If he ejaculates in
you he must lick you clean. If he ejaculates on you, he must lick you
clean. If you masturbate him or he masturbates for you, you must feed
him his semen. At some point you should make him shoot into a cup or a
glass and he must drink it down. This requirement for all submissive men
does two things. It puts a real price on his orgasms, and it shows your
acceptance of your dominance, and his acceptance of your dominance, no
matter who brought the topic up. This is non negotiable and should be
explained to him when he first approaches you with his desire to be
submissive to you or your desire to lead the relationship. If he does
not accept this simple requirement, he is not submissive. It is the only
test and proof that he is sincere in his desire to be submissive, and
your only requirement showing you are to assume the leadership role in
the relationship.

There is much, much more of course, but
you will discover things along the way. These are just a few suggestions
but a good starting point for exploring this new aspect of your
relationship. The most important thing is to have fun. If he approached
you, he has a need. If you approached him, you have a desire to change
the course of your relationship. Either way, if it is done in a loving
fashion, it will be fun and bring you closer!

“Thanks to Dominiantwivesblog”

And all this leads to:

Chastity Training

1. You are not punishing your man – you are protecting him from his perfectly normal lack of self-control…

2.
You are not denying him sexual pleasure. In fact, when you do release
him from his male chastity belt, sex will feel better for him and his
orgasms will become much more intense…

3. You are not
denying yourself the sex life you deserve. While he’s locked up he’ll
use his mouth and fingers to provide you with sexual satisfaction on a
regular basis. And, there are ways that you have satisfying penetrative
sex while he is still under lock and key…

4. Men will
try to claim they need to have regular orgasms to stay healthy. This
simply isn’t true. They do need to have ejaculations every so often; but
you can make this happen in a matter of minutes without him getting an
erection or having an orgasm…

5. Hundreds of thousands
of married couples are in the male chastity lifestyle. It’s not kinky.
In fact, the odds are that several of your friends already have their
husband’s crown jewels locked away…

6. When done
correctly, your man will feel more loved by you than he did before male
chastity became a part of your life. In fact, most men eventually thank
their wives for insisting on the lifestyle…

7. While at
first you’ll only keep him locked up for a few days at a time,
eventually he should be restricted to eight to 12 orgasms a year. This
is more than enough…

8. Over time he’ll start to feel
like more of a man, because he’ll know that all of his sexual energy is
going towards pleasing you. He’ll like the fact that he no longer feels
like a little boy who can’t help but play with his little pee-pee when
you are not looking. Instead, he will be saving himself for you…

Thanks to LockedAndOnTheKnees!

Source: Femdom Planet

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