After writing the last series of posts on the submissive craving, I feel the need to do a reality check. I don’t want people to think those posts represent the day-to-day life in a wife-led-marriage (WLM). There is a lot of fantasy, exaggerated dominance, and role play integrated into the concepts I wrote about.  Fantasy days, power trips, and boot camp are different tools that can be used to spice things in the marriage while also helping solidify the WFM.  They are fun ways to make it happen and are not activities that happen on a regular basis.

These activities quench the craving for dominance and control that submissive men desire. I recommend the wife to engage in these fantasy activities on occasion to help satisfy that desire and because of the many other benefits, which I outlined in my last post. The key words in the last sentence are “on occasion.” It is not practical or realistic for most people to live their life in an extreme dominant lifestyle. I also don’t think it’s healthy, nor is it how I would want to live. I don’t want my husband to be a mindless slave. I don’t want to make all the decisions in the house. I want a husband who is my friend and that I can have an intelligent conversation with, and that we can do things together and have fun.

A WLM is not about constant training, punishment, and discipline, and extreme strictness. These things are incorporated into the WLM but are not every-day activities.

The WLM is a mindset that the wife is head of household and has the right to final say in all decisions. The husband yields to the wife’s authority and works to please and satisfy her. The wife’s needs and desires have top priority but she leads the marriage with love and consideration for the husband’s needs and desires and the husband willingly serves his wife out of love and the desire to please her.   

That is the core of WLM. All the other details add the fun and spice to the marriage. Each couple is different and can define those details based on what they want. I hope that series of posts provided ideas that you can apply into your own marriage. Have some fun and give them a try. If you do, please comment and let us know how things went. Also, feel free to share your own ideas and experience.

-Mz Kaylee



Reality Check