Thanks to all who participated in the discussion from the last post. There were quite an array of responses – some agree, some disagree and some in the middle. A few people took it a step further and talked about men actually being treated like a child or baby, which was not the intent of my question, but I enjoyed the comments and hearing about the experiences. I was glad to see differing opinions because that makes a good discussion and leads to more thought provoking comments. More people disagreed than agreed with the statement that “dealing with men is like dealing with a five year old.” I think that is because more men responded than women. Special thanks to the few women that responded. It was disappointing that we did not hear from more women because the question really is aimed at women. While I enjoyed reading all the comment from the guys, the reality is that guys can not fairly comment on the subject because it is the women who have to deal with them.

The idea of posting the question came as a result of correspondence I was having with another woman who is in a WLM. As we shared our experiences and dynamics in our WLMs, we both concluded that many of the things we do with our husbands are similar to what you would do with a child. Examples include: having to punish or spank them, sending them to the corner, being very specific and authoritative when telling them what to do, having to regularly monitor the tasks that they do to ensure they are done correctly, telling them “good boy,” regularly questioning them on things they’ve done, and talking with them, using a motherly tone.

Some of the reactions and things that submissive men do also reminded us of what a child would do. The guilty look on his face when I question him about sitting in my chair, the sad look when he is punished, or the pouting when he is not happy are examples. Another common example is how submissive men are constantly vying for our attention and will do silly or bad things just to get it. We can see right through that boys! On the positive side, when I use a strict and demanding tone he responds immediately, similar to a child who knows not to disobey his mother in that moment.

I  am not implying the submissive men are the same as a five-year old and that men have the same maturity level of a five-year old. There are moments when they act like a child but overall submissive men certainly are more mature than than a child.  My earlier post on the “Strong Submissive Man,” emphasizes the the many great qualities of submissive men and those strong qualities are clearly above the level of a five-year old. What I am merely stating in this post is that there are similarities in dealing with children and dealing with submissive men,

Dealing with submissive men is like dealing with a child but that is not necessarily a bad thing. It is just something for women to understand as the embark on a WLM. Women need to feel comfortable punishing their husbands, being authoritative, and acting in a motherly way toward them. It may seem strange at first but the more you accept and do these things, the more natural it feels and the better results you will get with your husband.

-Mz Kaylee.

Why Dealing With Submissive Men is Like Dealing With a Five Year Old