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Our FLR Contract Worked Wonders For Our Relationship

My guidance could and does impact my partner. Throughout our relationship, he has made so many positive improvements to his life through my direction. Prior to our relationship and me coming and taking the FLR role without knowing that was what I was doing, he didn’t have a lot of direction. Coming into his life, I made a lot of changes. To make a long story somewhat short we got custody of his son. This was something he was not going to push for. I think based on my direction and the guidance I had with seeing the condition his son was in, that he opened up his eyes to what was going on and worked to get custody. This was at the [...]

We Almost Went Our Separate Ways

It is a desperately hard thing for two people that, deeply love each other, to accept that they have a problem which is likely to end with both parties going their separate ways. I had been with my beautiful wife for three years after dating for around eighteen months. We were happy, very happy, but we used to argue a great deal – we are both very stubborn, we both have differing views on world issues, and neither of us deal with stress very well in all honesty. We coped reasonably well but life can throw you a lot of curve-balls at times. Our debt was spiraling, we worked different hours, one of our elderly relatives needed quite a lot of care for [...]

Our FLR Is Our Treasured Secret

My Lady and I were introduced to each other by a mutual friend who knew us quite well and thought our natural Domina/submissive personas would be an interesting mix. We knew about each other, via our friend, for quite a while before we actually met. The chemistry was certainly right although she kept me at a distance for a few months until she was certain that my desire to serve her was genuine. Her intelligence inspires and motivates me to this day. I’ve always felt comfortable around strong creative, confident women, preferably left-leaning, and my Goddess is all of that and more. Our relationship has endured because we enjoy discussing the nature of it often, finding ways to make it better. We’ve never [...]

Who is Queenie of Conquer Him?

As I read through the surveys that I collected from dominant women I came across a question that made me smile. One anonymous woman asked: Who is the person running this site? Well, I know that I have mentioned a few of my dating stories here and there but I would like to take the time to really introduce myself. Te-Erika Patterson at the train station in Los Angeles. My real name is Te-Erika Patterson, I have hyperlinked my online portfolio just to save you the time of googling me. I am 36 years old. I have two teenage sons. I studied journalism in undergrad and Marriage & Family Counseling in graduate school. I have been a blogger since 2003. I used to [...]

Ebook: Submissive Men & The Women Who Love Them

I purchased this Kindle book after learning that it was written as a collaboration by a few of the women in a group I belong to on Fetlife. Submissive Men and The Women Who Love Them by Anna Kochanka and Goddess Victoria Black is a light fiction collection of stories that depict Female Led Relationships, choosing to focus on the people, using the BDSM/kink as an accessory instead of a driving force. It is not too hard to digest and not hardcore erotica either. The description for the book reads: The fictional stories in this book all explore the female dominant/ male submissive dynamic. you will not meet the female equivalent of Christian Gray in these stories but you will meet female dominants who are loving [...]

Conquer Him Community Survey Results 2015

Between October 2014 and October 2015 a community survey was posted on ConquerHim.Com to help identify the readers who frequent Conquer Him.  The survey was posted publicly and the submissions were anonymous. 470 people completed the survey. Here are the survey’s results. Find a detailed graph visit this link COMMUNITY SURVEY RESULTS.   Source: Conquer Him

Complete the Survey For Dominant Women

Hello ladies! We are excited to have reached our goal for our Submissive Male Survey! Thank you so much to all of the men who shared their opinions so that we can improve our future training courses and write more effective posts on Conquer Him! The results were interesting and they will be shared right here on Conquer Him. Now we have a similar survey for the awesome women in our community! This survey will be closed once we reach our goal number of participants. Please share with your friends if you know they are dominant women! Loading… Source: Conquer Him

MOVIE REVIEW: The Duke of Burgundy (2014)

This erotic drama follows the relationship of two lesbian women Evelyn and Cynthia who are very much in love. Evelyn is a woman whose kink is service submission and degradation. She asks Cynthia to dominate her and goes into great detail scripting out their scenes together, even coaching her on which tone to use when she degrades her. This film is important in the realm of Female Led Relationships because it depicts the lengths that a partner will go through to satisfy the one she loves. The “dominant” partner does not truly enjoy dominating her partner.  Eventually this false dominance leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity and their relationship is tested. This movie was heart breaking for me. I felt that the dominant partner [...]

Dear Queenie: My Dominant Wife Hates That I Am Submissive

Dear Queenie, My wife has been demanding and dominant for 17 years. This has caused much friction for us. Recently I touched on this concept of FLR and thought this was perfect. Deep down I felt it was good and she always got her way anyway. I immediately did everything for her. I did the chores, cleaning, washed clothes and gave her massages. When I told her I would do it all and enjoyed serving her she called me a pervert and a turn off. In life I am a total alpha. I also did not ask her anything related to sex, just for her to give me the orders and be served. She thinks it’s perverted and sick. When I did start [...]