Zero vanilla time = extreme lifestyle?

I cover this topic in my BDSM Manual but I thought I would post about it firstly, because the greater number of lifestyle couples I learn about, the more interested in the topic I become, and secondly…………. you will read later on in the post. When a couple are in a Femdom relationship, it seems to me that the most major determinant of how extreme is that relationship, is how much the Domme enjoys the vanilla company of their sub as a supplement to her enforcing, full-on BDSM activity time. I know I am thought of by many as an extreme lifestyle Domme, but I don’t think I am. The reason I don’t is the considerable number of activities in which I want bitch-boy’s vanilla company, not slave company. Dining out and [...]

Those Innate Drives- Good and Bad

So humans are born with powerful drives already installed. For males that drive to make offspring has handily morphed into the more simple drive to orgasm, (without another human present if that is the only option when the drive kicks in). Two or three times a day if many of them could. So control those orgasms and control the man, torture the man, humiliate the man. Females have a drive for orgasms derived only from the endorphins pleasure the orgasms bring, so can do without for periods of time with rather more decorum than males. (I can see no female drive for sexual pleasure linked to any drive to have babies, just saying.) Obviously there is the bad drive for consuming calories, not helpful! [...]

#EuphOff2018: The Semi-Moist Treat Stick Edition

In which I enter a bad sex competition. Wish me luck as I try to pack the most cringes into a sub 500 word story, in my chosen genre. Worst Intentional Femdom Story of 2018! She was not like other dommes. Of course she charged hundreds of dollars to provide intimate and erotic control, accepting the gift of cash as a part of the sacred gift of submission. But she was a nice normal girl who was only doing it to pay her way through college. Not like that competitive jerk who was her age but much more unhinged and also working at the dungeon. Mama Mistress had mentored and trained her, and matched her with the hunky Mediterranean millionaire she was [...]

Times have changed.

Obviously not in every country in the world have times changed, and some countries are going backwards in freeing women from oppression, (Turkey being the worst regressing country at the moment). But overall in the civilised world, women’s oppression is being eradicated and the images in this link are fascinating and amusing, (one example below); and SHOCKING when you appreciate the original posters are REAL! But then given the number of countries that still profoundly oppress their women, perhaps not so surprising. Religion certainly has a lot to answer for in those countries and not just Islam. Oppression of women is carried out in the names of Judaism, Christianity and even Buddhism in a good number of countries.                   [...]

Huge Ribbon Bows

Before addressing huge ribbon bows, regular readers of my blog will know that when forcing a sub into sissy attire or parody of a little girl attire, (or parody of a schoolgirl attire),  I favour a little dress that comes down only to the hips. Huge humiliation is inflicted from the front if the shaved genitals with a restraint locked on are in view, or just shaved and soft; indicating it is no sexual pleasure at all for the humiliated male to be treated so. And humiliation from the rear too if the butt and/or backs of thighs display the results of a recent harsh punishment. But it seems from the reactions of the helpless males I have been involved with that almost as bad, OR PERHAPS WORSE, [...]

Yet more from Christine M

Christine has left another extended delightful comment on the blog post entitled  : Ignoring heartfelt pleading and tears Source: Ms Scarlet Yet more from Christine M #femdomhypnosis #femdomtraining #malesubmissivetraining #femaledominancetraining #femdomhusbandtraining

Spike topped shoes torment!

A lovely tableau during my recent visit to Mistress Nicola’s. I was wearing the shoes in the photo and we had poor pansy-piece sit on the floor, legs spread wide apart and his wrists bound behind his back. I pushed my spiked shoe tight up against his genitals. Nicola reached down and rested his clitty on the top of my shoe on the spikes. She then came in close and placed the sole of her shoe onto pansy-piece’s clitty pressing it down onto the spikes. She kept her shoe there. She and I embraced and kissed and caressed while Nicola varied the downward pressure of the sole of her shoe pushing his clitty down onto the spikes.     A lovely tableau [...]

Ignoring heartfelt pleading and tears

I do point out in my BDSM manual that one way to very deeply affect a sub and get delicious arousing pleasure as a Domme is to get the sub to the point where they are truly pleading with all their heart and soul for something to happen, or to not happen, or to stop happening. (But one can go further, see levels 2 and 3 below.) Level 1 – A sub truly begging with all its heart, has no doubt they are utterly helpless, the domination is REAL and they are at the mercy of a cruel person. I would almost say it is essential. Level 2, Once the begging with all its heart has been attained, add a mind-fuck, the sub must believes the mind [...]

Puzzles and Problems

It’s there, but goodness only knows where it is. No amount of standard levers will shift this particular boulder, slap him, push him, sit on him and none of these things push him there. It’s day 3 of his visit and he’s finishing off the crunchy bakery bread toasts and fluffed up scrambled eggs I made for him. We’ve been having sex in a cycle of squirming, fucking and recovery for the last two days and I am giving my cunt a break after a combination of size and first time tension has left it a little beat up. He’s giving his cock a break, every so often checking it for bruises with the care of a man tending to horse after [...]

Problems with Lulu?

I apologise for asking about such a boring matter, but has anyone experienced a technical problem with purchasing my BDSM Manual from LULU.COM? I have to say my BDSM Manual has been ‘flying off the shelves’ from day one from the other outlets like AMAZON KINDLE and continues to do so, and although the same was true with LULU.COM to begin with, there has been a very sudden drop off with LULU.COM. Given nothing has changed with the outlets, I have to ask the question about LULU.COM. Perhaps I should change my paperback outlet from LULU.COM to Amazon, but I have several reasons to not want to use Amazon for this. LINK to my published journals. LINK to my published BDSM manual.   Source: Ms [...]