How to Get a Woman to Dominate You: a Search Review.

I believe you can tell a lot about the quality of the information available to community by how searchable it is and right now that exact phrase “How to Get a Woman to Dominate You” turns up a disaster as far as results. About 50% of humans seem to be at least vaguely kinky, with submissive fantasies being very common in all genders. Despite that, it’s an oft remarked comment of femdoms that the quality of the come ons we get and the education of our potential partners is more often than not, appalling. Guys who think we don’t exist. Guys who don’t know how to approach us. Guys who think we are weird fetish unicorns. Why, with the sheer banality of the [...]

By |2019-04-28T21:29:32-07:00April 28th, 2019|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

On Missing Stairs, Zak Smith, Libertines, Pimps, BDSM and Roleplaying

Let’s talk about Zak Smith (aka Zak Sabbath, Zak S). No, not the being terrible person thing, lots of people know about that already. Rather, lets talk about a particularly noxious kind of person who attaches themselves to libertine communities and pleasure parties: the pimp, and how he embodies a particular part of The Problem. A Background: Who is this random guy and why should you, the reader of a porn blog, care? Recently my various worlds collided. I’ve intimated before I do super nerdy stuff like roleplaying. That doesn’t make me shocking- venn diagram between kink and LARP is almost a perfect circle. Therefore I won’t delve too much into telling you what roleplaying is. I will warn that if you were [...]

By |2019-02-18T22:53:16-08:00February 18th, 2019|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Friday Femdom Fiction: Personal Sex Doll

A yup, sponsored story posts help pay for the cost of hosting. This time it’s SexDolls.com helping pay for all the porn you folks love and enjoy. “Don’t move except when I move you, don’t speak.” She held a finger to his lips, looked into his eyes. They were sitting on the edge of her bed, double sized, blankets tucked and made, just enough room for two. She smiled, a little unsure at first of her idea, but with anticipation of getting what she wanted. He didn’t nod, just immediately complied, putting away words and letting himself take a blank affect when she started to strip him. She admired his unresistant weight in her hands, twisting and pulling, shirt off, pants off with a [...]

By |2018-10-19T08:00:51-07:00October 19th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Friday Femdom Fiction: Toys For Good Boys

“It’s too hot to fuck.” She was clad only in panties, sprawled so they just touched, arm to arm and her ankle layered over his. In her perception is body was radiating heat, and she’d broken off their kissing to escape it. His boxers were covering about 3/4 of an erection, enough to keep her interested, predatory and playful, while the cuffs wrapped around his wrists and ankles held him, immobilized and spread, on display.  She had planned it out differently, tease herself and him until he was full-hard, then ride him, but three minutes of making out had put an end to that. Summer was getting in her way. He looked disappointed, but not like he disagreed with her logic.  “Ok, Miss…” [...]

By |2018-08-16T20:50:14-07:00August 16th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Life Updates Again

I am thinking about the particulars of self-care. Not fairy lights and lush bath bars, but the immense amount of effort it takes to keep one overly ambitious adult woman ambulatory. Since I started a lovely, bland, immensely important straight job, which, cards played right, I will do until I exit clutching a pension, life has stopped being an uncertain jumble of hope and turned into a semi obscured singular path, I have time to look at other stuff. One of them is the knowledge that I will always need to focus on a certain amount of time to keep my shit together. I feel odd talking about my health, in the least because I am aware that non-normative perversion includes a certain [...]

By |2018-08-16T19:54:07-07:00August 16th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Reader Letter: “Femdom Housewife?”

I recently got this rather sweet letter from a long term reader, so I’m glad to get a chance to answer for everyone. It’s a topic I’ve talked about before- the awkward relationship between gender roles and power, but if people are still asking about if you can be a femdom housewife, it deserves another mention. Inquisitive writes… O Miss Pearl, I am a bit-more-than-occasional reader of your blog. Recently, a thought has been egging my curiosity. I was wondering that whether its possible for a male and female in a Femdom relationship (with said relationship being applicable in the bedroom and to a certain, not-discernible-to-others extent, outside the bedroom too … just to provide context) to still have traditional roles with regards [...]

By |2018-08-10T19:58:36-07:00August 10th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Anti-erotic Life Updates

Pleasant lashings of Vancouver rain beat down on the new city I call home, while I ineptly put together homemade pancakes (got the texture wrong because I eyeballed it and experimented with cake flour) and my long suffering roomie wrestles with their cold on sick day number two. My body is a disgusting PMS mess, dry and oily and swollen, over sensitive and blotchy. Although, in theory, I see Brick this weekend I feel as erotic as a mud filled pinata. My mood, due to stuff not related to sex, is ok, but mostly I am just looking in the mirror and seeing one breast a D and the other a perky E, and feeling more prickle than warmth in my cunt. Of [...]

By |2018-06-14T11:25:23-07:00June 14th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Friday Femdom Fiction: Jerk Off Instructions

“Take off your clothes.” She spoke,  abruptly, after breaking off the kissing.  She could still feel the stoftness of his lips against hers, the right amount of wet, and the taste-that-was-not-a-taste when she had licked them. They’d been making out for maybe five minutes, although she tended not to keep track of the time, with a buzzing sort of urge starting to clamour at her to grab control. It always came like this, with the arousal, that as the curl of sensation built up her spine, her mind turned mean. Her words got his attention, and a little bit of a challenge in the tilt of his head, as yet unlifted from the pillow. “Yes. Do it.” Sitting up, she got a good [...]

By |2018-06-08T11:20:22-07:00June 8th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |1 Comment

Retrospective 2018 On My Femdom Life

Let’s look at the metaphoric hiking blisters and holiday snaps from my sexual journey, shall we? This blog has seen me through four relationships, and a significant part of my adult life, almost a third of it, actually. It was started as an effort to put content out there that resonated with me, in a world that did precious little, for various reasons, to cater to my niche. I knew, for example, when I saw a scene in a movie where an attractive man was tortured I got very alert and excited, but there was a distinct lack of stuff explicitly made for my gaze and desire. I started chasing this in 2008, with my move to Montreal. I slipped from turgid sex [...]

By |2018-06-06T12:18:18-07:00June 6th, 2018|Categories: Miss Pearl|Tags: |0 Comments

Talking About BDSM With Your Therapist

— Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis This is not an advice post, it’s a sharing post, partially just to make sense of my recent experiences. I’m dealing with a generalized anxiety disorder, and have been for a long time. Some of this is hereditary, some of this is situational damage from some less than idyllic life experiences. As a result of this, I actively pursue things that help make me mentally healthy and one of them is therapy. Being kinky while getting help from medical professionals, particularly mental health professionals, is an experience that can go many ways- some are well educated on the subject, some open minded but clueless, some have trouble not seeing it as a pathological hangup or a part of your [...]