Only the power exchange part of power exchange is required

In which Stabbity continues to mine Novices & Newbies for post topics Only the power exchange part of power exchange is required, and that’s only because it’s not power exchange if you don’t, you know, exchange some power. You are not even slightly required to do power exchange if you don’t fucking want to, but [...]

By | 2017-07-08T22:11:58+00:00 July 2nd, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

What if you want to go to a munch but you’re not ready?

Okay, so I’ve written a bunch about how you don’t have to go to a munch and how to meet people if you don’t want to go to one, but what do you do if you do want to go to a munch but you’re scared? Well, you’ve got to break down what exactly is [...]

By | 2017-07-08T22:11:58+00:00 June 25th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments


One of my readers came up with a really interesting experiment: she left a comment on my post 100 Submissive Men For Every Dominant Woman about how most online dating profiles attract exactly the kind of “submissives” I rant about in that post and how she’s looking for, in her words “a wholly submissive man.” If you’re [...]

By | 2017-07-08T22:11:59+00:00 June 22nd, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

You don’t have to play with other people!

So I was skimming Novices & Newbies and somebody asked about jealousy as a newbie to the scene. They seemed to be operating from the assumption that it was inevitable that they and their partner would play with other people and wanted to know how to deal with jealousy around that. Here’s the thing: you [...]

By | 2017-07-08T22:11:59+00:00 June 11th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

Why the lack of interest in online play?

It seems pretty common for dominant women not to have any interest in online play. Obviously I can’t speak for all women (and oh how I hate it when men ask questions as if women are a hive mind and one of us can speak for all of us), but here’s my take on it. [...]

By | 2017-07-08T22:11:59+00:00 June 4th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

How do you meet people without going to a munch?

I recently read the most amazing trainwreck of a rant about how people who want to meet people in person at a munch are the absolute worst and are actively screwing over people who don’t want to go to munches, and it made me think, is there actually any advice out there about meeting other [...]

By | 2017-05-28T23:12:00+00:00 May 28th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

Yes, you are kinky enough

It makes me sad to see people online wondering if they’re a good enough dom/sub/top/bottom/etc because they don’t want to perv as hard as they can as often as they can. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with going hard, it’s just not the only choice. Not all doms want to micromanage their subs. Not all [...]

By | 2017-05-28T23:12:07+00:00 May 21st, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

What I’m playing lately

Who doesn’t like talking about videogames? Lately I’ve been playing Rusty Lake’s Cube Escape series, which is a bunch of point and click room escape games you can play right in your browser, assuming you have flash enabled, or on iOS or Android if you’d rather play on your phone or tablet. They’re kind of weird [...]

By | 2017-05-28T23:12:12+00:00 May 7th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments