Is submission learnable?

As much as the idea of training as a universally recognized path to Doing Submission Correctly irritates the shit out of me, I do actually think that some parts of submission can be practiced. To be entirely clear, the fetishy idea that there is such a thing as The Marketplace and one correct way to submit and [...]

By | 2017-04-21T14:23:04+00:00 January 15th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

Fantasy, reality, and mismatches

As I was reading a thread about people immediately demanding submission in that one Fetlife group I like, I had a thought. Well, a couple of related thoughts. 1) I thinking roleplaying online is perfectly fine as long as it’s clear that’s what you’re doing, and 2) I think a big chunk of what makes people [...]

By | 2017-04-21T14:23:10+00:00 January 8th, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

Another take on self-acceptance

Recently I got a nice message from a reader about self acceptance and figured that’s as good an excuse as any to write about something I’ve been thinking about anyway. Unlike some sadists, I’ve never worried very much about whether I’m evil or profoundly disturbed or going to end up a serial killer or something. I [...]

By | 2017-04-21T14:23:17+00:00 January 1st, 2017|For Women|0 Comments

“why every women should try femdom”

Somebody found my blog by searching for “why every women should try femdom” and if they weren’t disappointed already, they sure will be now Every woman should most certainly not try femdom. If you’re already curious or at least undecided one way or the other, sure, by all means give it a shot. But if you [...]

By | 2017-04-21T14:23:28+00:00 December 11th, 2016|For Women|0 Comments

Kink in public: keep it to yourself, asshole

Honestly, just go read this excellent tumblr post, I really don’t have that much to add. If you absorb nothing else from that post, take this one thing: those people going about their day in public DID NOT CONSENT TO BEING PART OF YOUR SCENE. I’m not saying that you can’t ever do anything the tiniest [...]

By | 2017-04-21T14:23:32+00:00 December 4th, 2016|For Women|0 Comments