Let Me start with a confession: Twenty years ago, when My play partner nervously presented Me with a small locked device and an even smaller key, I laughed. Not out of mockery, but pure bewilderment. “You want Me to… what? Hold onto this? For how long?” Up until that point I had only heard of chastity through religious purity tests and for couples who were rebuilding infidelity broken trust. But I had never seen a device, nor been asked to be the “Keyholder” of one. Fast forward two decades, and I’ve guided hundreds of couples, singles, chastity curious, and lock lovers through Locktober and long-term chastity dynamics. I’ve witnessed transformations that would make a therapist jealous, collected enough stories to fill several books, [...]

There is a question that has been sitting heavy in My chest lately. It has begun to color the way I see this entire lifestyle I’ve devoted Myself to: Does the kind of slave I seek even exist anymore? I don’t ask this lightly. I don’t ponder it as a ‘what I want is so unique‘. I don’t write it as a passing doubt or a throwaway moment of cynicism. This is the kind of question that has been eating away at Me, eroding both My patience and My passion, leaving Me wondering if what I’m seeking is nothing more than a dream that doesn’t match the current reality of kink, submission, and service as it’s lived today. So often, I meet “submissives” [...]

When I first started exploring power exchange dynamics way back in the early 2000s (yes, that long ago haha), I thought it had to be all or nothing. Either we were “in scene” or we were just regular people doing regular relationship stuff. It took Me way too long to realize that some of the most meaningful moments in dynamics happen during the most ordinary parts of our day. I love rules, rituals and protocols so, let Me tell you about subtle protocols, the small, often invisible ways My partners and I maintain our D/s connection even when we’re dealing with grocery shopping, work stress, or sitting through yet another mind-numbing vanilla commitment. What is a “micro” protocol? Honestly, I used to [...]