TOWARD A FANTASTIC MARRIAGE: How and why Domestic Discipline works. An essay by Vivian (part 1). Do you remember how your husband treated you when you were first dating? Was he more thoughtful then? Did he look forward to being with you? Didn’t he try to please and impress you? If you’ve been married for any length of time you’ll probably find that the man you married is a bit (or a lot) differnent from the man you’re married to. Lets talk about the reasons for that difference. When your husband first became interested in you, he was unsure of the extent to which you were interested in him. He wanted you and he wanted you to want him. He looked to signals [...]

FAQs What follows are examples of some of questions I have been most frequently asked by women over the past couple of years and my responses. This entire web site is actually one big answer to frequently asked questions, but this section deals with a few that I felt needed a little more explaination. QUESTION #1 Dear Vivian, While I am intrigued by this idea of punishing my husband and controlled his orgasms, it feels confusing and self-contradictory. On the one hand, it seems as if you are saying that I should put my husband over my knee and spank him because he really wants me to (that he gets a sexual thrill out of that) and on the other hand you’re telling [...]

TOWARD A FANTASTIC MARRIAGE: How and why Domestic Discipline works. An essay by Vivian (part 11). Getting started I hope the information on this site is enough to get you started with this new and wonderful aspect of your marital relationship. I promised this page on getting started, but I honestly don’t have much more to say on the subject that isn’t already covered in the site. But I will try to offer something helpful here. 1. If your husband has already told you he is interested in trying Domestic Discipline. In this case your next step is easy. Take him up on it! You’ll want to begin by sitting down with him to lay out the rules. The rules may be as [...]

TOWARD A FANTASTIC MARRIAGE: How and why Domestic Discipline works. An essay by Vivian (part 8). About sex The great thing about sex in a marriage that includes Domestic Discipline is that it gets better in whatever way you want it to. Think about your sexual fantasies, the things you’ve never told your husband about for fear of what he’d think of you or for fear that he’d either reject you or the idea. Now you have the freedom to let your husband know what you want in sex without fear. You have that freedom because of his vulnerability. Think about it. He has just allowed himself to be bare-bottomed spanked by you, you have humiliated him, restriced his access to his own [...]