Good morning and welcome to Monday! Today is officially FAFO day. I woke up stupid early. Something that seems to be happening a bit lately. Not helped by the fact that currently in Brisbane it starts getting daylight around 4.30am. After scrolling for a while I got up, took some medication and started my day. Since my thyroidectomy in August I take a daily dose of Thyroxin. This medication isn’t optional. It is also kind of helpful if it is taken on an empty stomach, 30 minutes before eating anything. So as I staggered to the kitchen and clicked on the kettle a random thought went through my head. “Did I take the thyroxin?” I have two medications I take in the morning. [...]

I have lived in different areas of the same city for most of my adult life. As a child, I visited this same city several times a year. Sometimes I drive through areas of the city I haven’t been in for a long time, remembering things from my teenage and early twenties years. This morning as I drove Mr Jones to a hospital appointment (the joys of aging!) I found myself stopped at a set of traffic lights and remembering something that happened many years ago at the same set of traffic lights. In my twenties, I was driving from my workplace in a rural town just outside the city to my boyfriend’s house in the inner suburbs. A car with two young [...]

Photo by ERIC MUFASA on Pexels.com In the swinger lifestyle, consent is a cornerstone. Everyone has a right to say no. No explanations, no justification, no negotiation.   Every time.  Right?  Except of course, when they don’t.   I bet as you are reading this you are thinking of a million scenarios when a man didn’t listen to a woman’s refusal. When he nagged her, or gaslighted her, or got her drunk so she was more compliant. We have all seen this happen. We have all read the countless social media posts, articles and blog pages about men who do this.   But what happens when a woman doesn’t respect a boundary or accept a refusal for sexual contact?   “That would never [...]