Before, I get into the next phase of Thomas's training, I want to point out something that I should have in the previous post. MK left a comment on my last post that reminded me that gags cause a lot of drool. Something I learned in researching what gag to buy was that drooling is actually what many dominants want as it adds to the humiliation of the sub. My goal with the training was not to cause Thomas to drool but was about having something forced into his mouth so that he could not talk. I also read that gags can be very uncomfortable and should not be worn for long periods of time. Many sites recommended no more than 20 minutes. [...]

A good submissive is one that makes himself useful and valuable to his owner/wife. The more useful he becomes to her, the more easy it is for her to enjoy and embrace the FLR/WLM lifestyle. It is not all about sexual domination. The guest post below demonstrates this perfectly. I love the new skill that Edward is developing and refining, as well as the training method employed.  -Mz Kaylee  Never Too Old To Learn Something Newby EdwardAbout eight months ago, I was sitting in the family room watching a show on Netflix, while my wife was sewing up a tear she had put into the leg of her blue jeans.  I casually mentioned to her that I had seen a documentary named “The True [...]

As promised, this is a follow-up post on behavior modification. In this post I share my experience with  a new training project that I have done with my husband. If you are a regular reader of my blog, you may remember that I regularly enforce no talking days. The reasons for no talking days are to remind him of my control over him and to give him regular time to reflect on his submission to me and how he can better serving me. I also enjoy the quiet time. During no talking days, if I ask a question, he can respond, but it has to be short and to the point. He can text me questions or information and he is allowed to [...]

So apparently Google had a data breach and it affected my account. Ultimately it lead to me being locked out of my account for a week. Ugh! Not a good solution in today's world.  Anyway....have patience with me as I catch up on e-mails and comments. I was pleased to see continued activity in the comments section of posts. I am enjoying the discussion in Trina's post - Punishment Can Arouse and Still Work.  I especially like the depth of the comments and that the discussion is bringing to light the deeper complexities of punishment and discipline. The more we dig into these dynamics and understand them, the better we can effectively incorporate them into our relationships. I am so proud of you [...]

Let me start by saying that It has been great to see an increase in comments on the blog and that there are new people commenting and more Females engaging in the conversations. I hope the activity in the comments continues to grow. Whether you are new to WLM or experienced, I encourage you to comment and share your experiences, questions or thoughts. The discussions in the comments often lead to great insights and ideas that others can apply to their own relationship. Hearing from others also helps to validate that WLM is real, is beneficial, and that you are not alone in your quest. Thank you all for your continued engagement.Having said all that, I am very pleased to publish another post [...]

Below is just a random collection of things relating to our personal relationship which I have found to be beneficial and which I feel contribute to the continuing success of our marriage. Some of these may have an FLR flavoring to them, but most I think are pretty generic and would apply to all types of relationships. Hopefully these may come in handy to some of you, even if its just as a reminder of something which you already do or which is already some part of your life, but just have forgotten to do or think about lately. Some of these might come in handy with Valentines day just around the corner…..1) I still love it very much when my husband randomly and [...]

One aspect of the Wife Led Marriage (WLM) lifestyle that I have come to enjoy is permanently modifying the behavior of my husband. I get a thrill out of using my feminine power and control over him to change his habits, his thoughts, and mindset. I am not talking about fantasy or physical control. I am talking about a deep emotional change in his being and the way he thinks. It was my husband who first brought this concept to light for me. It was about a year and half after our formal WLM began, that he confessed to me some deep thoughts on behavior change. He did not call it behavior modification and I don't think at the time he realized how [...]

I am thrilled to publish another guest post written by a Female. In this post, Debbie provides great examples on how she measures her husband's performance. Debbie also has a profile full of great information in the profile section. Thanks for being an amazing Goddess Debbie and contributing to the blog!   -MzKayleeI loved your post concerning new year's resolutions. You come across like an Ivy League MBA when you say “It's important to be specific and to identify the steps to achieve your goals.” One of my mantras from the business world that I apply in my FLM is “You can't manage what you can't measure”. All employees at work have specific objectives - why shouldn't my submissive husband?So, I set out to specifically define [...]

Special thanks to AJ for her continued contributions to the blog. In this post she raises thought provoking questions to women. I encourage our Female readers to comment and provide your thoughts opinions. To learn more about AJ, read her profile page in the profile section of the blog. Not only does she share information about herself in the profile, but she provides great advice to those wanting to start or maintain a WLM/FLR  -MzKayleeWhy is it never good enough? Why am I never good enough for him?Unfortunately, I think this is the response that a considerable percentage of female readers may initially have when their significant male other introduces them into the desire for FLR based activities. I personally don’t think its at [...]

 Clothes are never ‘just“ clothes. They convey meaning, sometimes about socialstatus, or role expectations, sometimes about power, and definitely aboutgender. When we hear the word “panty” or see a skirt or a dress on a hanger, weimmediately think female. Certain manners of dress (a business suit or militaryuniform) imply authority, and others (semi-nakedness, nakedness, or a maid’suniform) signals submission.Some items of clothing have been unconsciously fetishized in early imprinting(more common with males, obviously), and once they become a part of thepsyche, generally this does not change. Submissive males often feel increasinglysubmissive around women dressed in leather, for example, or (my personalweakness) dressed in heels, nylons, and a business suit.There seems to be two broad categories in the use of female clothing with thesubmissive [...]