Hey, gorgeous queens! 👑 If you’re dipping your toes into femdom and want to make your sub squirm with delicious denial, chastity play is your ultimate power move. It’s not just about locking up his cock—it’s about owning his mind, turning every glance and whisper into erotic torture.
I’ve locked up over a dozen subs, from eager newbies to veteran masochists, and drained their desperation into weeks of obedience. In this beginner-friendly guide, I’ll walk you through 5 dead-simple steps to get started—no experience required. Plus, plug-and-play scripts, a printable contract, and 30-day challenges to keep him begging.
Ready to become his unbreakable Keyholder? Let’s lock and load! 🔒💋
Why Chastity? The Femdom Magic in 3 Bulletproof Reasons
Before we dive in, here’s why chastity is the starter tool for new Dommes:
| Reason | Why It Works | Sub’s Reaction |
|---|---|---|
| Total Control | You decide when (or if) he cums—builds instant submission. | Dripping pre-cum, eyes pleading 24/7. |
| Low Effort, High Reward | Set it and forget it; tease via text all day. | Turns chores into worship rituals. |
| Safe & Scalable | Start with 1 day, scale to months—no pain needed. | Addictions form fast; loyalty skyrockets. |
Pro Tip: 87% of subs in my FetLife poll said chastity made them “10x more devoted.” Science backs it: denial spikes dopamine, making you his ultimate high.
Step 1: Pick Your Cage (Budget to Baller Options)
Don’t overthink—start cheap and upgrade as he earns it. Here’s my top 3 picks for beginners:
| Cage | Price | Best For | Where to Buy | Lock Time Starter |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Holy Trainer v4 | $40 | Discreet daily wear | Amazon | 1-3 days |
| CB-6000S | $150 | Adjustable comfort | Lovehoney | 7 days |
| Nub Custom | $400+ | Lifetime perfection | NubStore.com | 30+ days |
Quick Fit Guide:
- Measure flaccid length (ruler along top) + girth.
- Add 20% space for swelling—too tight = ER trip!
- Lube ring with coconut oil; insert balls first.
My Story: My first sub bought a $20 AliExpress knockoff. It pinched, he whined—I made him wear it anyway. Lesson? Cheap works, but your smirk makes it magic.
Action Item: Order TODAY. Tease him: “Pick wrong, and you’re locked raw for a week.”
Step 2: Set Crystal-Clear Rules (Free Printable Contract Below)
Rules = your throne. No vague “be good”—spell it out!
Download: Femdom Chastity Contract PDF (Includes orgasm denial clause, punishment grid, and your signature line.)
Sample Rules for Week 1:
- Lock Time: 24 hours minimum—no excuses.
- Tease Tax: Send me a “locked and leaky” pic every morning.
- Rewards: Good boys get 5-min edge sessions (no cum!).
- Punishments: Whine? Add 12 hours. Cheat? Start over + spanks.
Keyholder Script #1: The Lock-In Ceremony (Say this while clicking the lock—record for replay!) “Kneel, pet. This tiny cage owns you now. Your cock? Mine. Your orgasms? A myth. Kiss the key… good boy. Locked for Goddess.”
Step 3: Master the Tease (3 Scripts to Drive Him Wild)
Teasing is 90% of the fun—do it anywhere! Texts, calls, whispers.
| Scenario | Script | Expected Sub Melt |
|---|---|---|
| Morning Text | “Morning, caged slut. Feel that throb? Send proof or +1 day.” | Instant pic + whimper audio. |
| Dinner Date | (Whisper) “Pass the salt, locked boy. Imagine my foot on your cage…” | Blushing, fumbling fork. |
| Bedtime Denial | “Edge for me now. Stop at 10… count backward. No cumming—ever.” | Shaking, begging voice notes. |
Pro Hack: Use apps like Obedience or KeySafe for random lock checks. Set vibration alarms: “Buzz = text me ‘Goddess Rules’.”
Real Win: One sub edge-texted me from a board meeting. Promoted next day—chastity builds focus.
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| Day | Lock Time | Daily Task | Reward/Punish |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | 24h | Pic + “Goddess owns me” | Verbal praise |
| 7 | 1 Week | Massage my feet | 5-min tease |
| 14 | 2 Weeks | Chore list takeover | Ruined orgasm? |
| 21 | 3 Weeks | Public panty wear | +3 days if no pic |
| 30 | Month Total | Full tribute ritual | Unlock… or not? 😈 |
Your First Lock-Up Checklist (Print & Pin!)
- Cage ordered/fitted
- Contract signed (you keep original)
- 3 tease scripts saved in Notes
- Calendar printed
- Aftercare kit: Water, chocolate, your hugs
- Emergency key hidden (safe = your power)
Total Time to Start: 15 minutes. First lock? Tonight!
Final Goddess Glow-Up: Make Chastity Your Empire
You’ve got the steps—now own them. Chastity isn’t a game; it’s your superpower. Start small, tease mercilessly, and watch him crumble into worship.
Quick Share Challenge: Lock him up TODAY, then tag me on X [@femdomtraining with #femdomtraining. Best pic gets a shout out.
Reader Q&A: Drop questions below—”What if he hates it?” (He won’t.) “Long-distance tips?” (Video locks!)
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As a good boy sub, I can strongly attest to denial increasing devotion to my Goddess Karen. Giving up control of my orgasms to her is incredibly erotic and makes me want to please her even more. Thank you Mistress Lara for this post, I will reflect more on how to use denial in service to my love.