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Ways to Encourage a Submissive Attitude

There are ways to foster the feeling of submission and feeling small or overpowered. And these are things that both of you can do as well.

For the Dom/Domme

• be consistent with your behavior, even if your sub does not respond consistently
• provide punishment for bad behavior quickly. Give 1 or 2 chances, not 10 or 12, and then punish your sub if he or she doesn’t respond the way you want them to.
• find ways to assert your dominance, even in small everyday matters. Be bossy! Get your sub used to taking orders all the time, not only at certain times of day or during a scene.
• find a “codeword” or symbol and train your sub to feel submissive when he or she hears this command
• make punishments harsher to give your sub some extra motivation to behave!
• find ways to make your sub relax; this will lead him to obey
• require her to do something that will remind her of her submission to you every hour or every few hours to keep her in the submissive mindset
• give “maintenance spankings”

For the sub

• have a glass of wine or a beer to help you relax. A relaxed sub will naturally feel more submissive.
• have a mantra or routine that you do throughout the day to help you retain your subby feeling and not drift back up into “topspace.”
• read submissive journals and blogs
• keep a submissive journal
• work on bettering yourself or doing 1 nice thing for your Dominant each day

Source: Femdom Planet

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