‘Lesbian’ FLR cuckolding of male uxos

Below is a comment I received that fascinated me as it is so similar to a period of my evolution, both in terms of FLR dominance and also sexuality shifting. (A small part of the similarity does arise from Mistress Ena reading this blog, but only a small part.) It does seem she and I are peas from the same pod!

Mistress Ena’s original comment

Hi Ms. Scarlet, I’m a casual reader and owner of an uxo (“labour-pig” I’ve taken to calling him because that’s what I intend for him, existing for nothing more than labour and suffering) who finds the inventiveness of your cruelty to be an inspiration. I’m also in a long distance relationship with a woman and I decided to reply to this post because it intrigued me. I’ve always been bisexual and physically I’m very attracted to both men and women, but how that attraction manifests has changed over time.

While my sadism has always been tied to my attraction for men (I’ve always wanted to dominate men I’m attracted to primarily and don’t really have sexually sadistic feelings towards women for whatever reason, I don’t really know why in truth, it just doesn’t click in my reptile brain), I used to think about having sex with them too, but now while my response to seeing a man I find attractive is to fantasise about how he’d look on his knees crying and begging or trembling in pain as I whip him etc. I don’t really think about having sex with him anymore. I’d rather deny him like I do to labour-pig. But with women I fantasise about sex with them much more than I used to, especially about cuckolding men while doing it.

When I first got into a relationship with labour-pig, I was the main initiator both romantically and sexually, and my dominance was mostly expressed in the form of preferring to ride him during sex, with some tying up or light whipping with a riding crop at most. It was when we started experimenting with chastity that things changed as I realised how much I enjoyed his shift in attitude as he became so much more attentive and aroused, and from there we gradually transitioned to a 24/7 FLR. That’s a key reason for my change in preferences as I realised I preferred it when labour-pig (and men in general) was desperate for me rather than when I primarily initiated things.

But I also think it’s possible in hindsight that I was never interested in sex with men and was just assuming that being attracted to someone necessarily equalled desiring to engage in intercourse. Some might think I’m a lesbian from that but I’ve thought about it and realised I’m definitely not, like I have a strong reaction when I see a man with a pretty face and a toned or muscular body just like when I see a pretty woman, but my thoughts go exclusively to dominating him, not having sex with him. You could compare it maybe to how some butch lesbians are attracted to women but only wish to top with a strap-on and give oral.

Nonetheless while I love my FLR, I later realised I still had a desire for vanilla, but not with him or with another slave and so I began to think about women. It took me a while to actually find someone as I could find no one I met in my local area into the idea of me having a slave, but eventually I met my girlfriend online around June 2024 and formed a relationship with her over the following months. About this time I made labour-pig a born again virgin (exact date below if you want to add it to the BAV registry) as my girlfriend didn’t like the idea of him being allowed to penetrate me. I had been meaning to anyway, the last time he had been allowed penetration was months ago before, I remember him begging and crying to be allowed PIV sex one last time when I announced he was going to be a BAV from now on. (so hot!)

As you can probably guess, his pleas only turned me on and I laughed at him in response.

It’s only gotten worse for him since then, half a year ago I decided he would now go erection free (inspired by you, it’s true in our case too, going erection free is so much more unbearable for him than just being in chastity) and soon I intend to swap his cage for one that has pins/spikes in it. I have been however saving his last orgasm for a special occasion although they are already far and few between anyway. For now labour-pig gets to eat me out (while I shock or whip his balls) but I’ve made it clear that this is a temporary situation and that once my girlfriend moves to my city his sexual role will be over forever and his purpose will be as mentioned nothing more than performing menial labour and arousing us with his suffering. This is also when I intend for the last time he’ll ever get to cum to be, in as pathetic of a way as I can think.

He dreads it and I remember how he hated it when she was visiting. The worst part of this for him is that his previous girlfriend before me broke up when she realised she was a lesbian. I’m merciless about this with him of course and love teasing him that he makes any girl he’s with sick of sex with men and that his natural role in life is to be the locked slave of a lesbian couple. I on the other hand, have many fond memories being with my beloved of course, but most relevant to this comment is the fun we had tormenting him together, sitting atop his back and making him carry us on all fours while we kissed, and making him watch as I ate her out to orgasm after orgasm and showed her romantic affection I haven’t shown him for a long time since we ended vanilla time.

I know I’m projecting my feelings onto all women and not everyone would enjoy this but it was such a wonderful feeling making out with my beautiful girlfriend while labour-pig looked on with such an anguished look on his pretty face, and I was thinking all the while “if only every woman would get to experience this feeling at least once”.

Anyway, sorry for rambling, hope you found this interesting.

(The exact date labour-pig became a BAV is August 26, 2024)

Mistress Ena

Subsequent Q&A

Hi again Ms. Scarlet, thanks for taking the time to email me, I’d be delighted to answer any questions you have. I’m very happy you found my comment so fascinating.

“I love the ‘name’ for him of “labour-pig” and I note his role will be that of your bitch.”

Degrading, isn’t it? Sometimes he still winces a bit when I call him that.

“When you write you are in a long distance relationship with a woman, how does that work??”

We communicate and watch movies together etc. through social apps and calls, and occasionally meet up. Usually it’s been me meeting her since I’m used to travelling while she doesn’t as much, the time I mentioned was the first time she came to visit me rather than the other way around. It’s not always easy to be in a long-distance relationship and I know several people who have had such relationships collapse messily. It helps that our locations aren’t too far apart from each other and I think if you are in a LDR it’s a good idea to be working towards the goal of moving in together at some stage, which we are in our case.

“I wonder why we differ here as we are so similar in so many quite rare ways.
I guess I differ as I see uxo women in the same way I see uxo men. I had a relationship for several years with an uxo women called Lexi. Have you read on my blog or in my journals how I enjoyed dominating her while my bitch suffered in many hours of total sensory deprivation bondage, and then she would turn into my lover and equal and we would abuse my bitch and I would cuckold him while he had to watch and she would spend the night in my bed too while he slept on the floor of the spare bedroom.”

I don’t really know why my sadism is only toward men and not women, all I can do is shrug. I have a bit of a female supremacist streak which may influence things, but I’m pretty that sure that came after and not before. Maybe it’s related to the fact that your sadism is less tied to attraction as a lesbian who likes dominating men even if you’re not attracted to them (if I understand your sexuality correctly)? I don’t know honestly.
I remember reading about the fun you had with Lexi, really hot. The sensory deprivation bondage is a great idea I will definitely have to put to use. That made me remember something I should also mention, I’ve decided since my girlfriend visited that my bed is only to be shared with her, labour-pig is no longer allowed to sleep on it whatsoever. If I’m feeling nice and he’s been good he can have a mattress and a blanket.

“I wonder if your desire for a female lover and ‘girlfriend’ is you do not want or need vanilla time with your labour-pig but quite understandably you want an equal to spend intimate reciprocal sex-time and vanilla time with. Whereas I am content not having a lesbian lover because I adore vanilla time with my bitch?”

I think this is very likely. If my relationship with labour-pig wasn’t 24/7 FLR, I don’t think I’d go for cuckolding beyond casual sex. Juggling two romantic relationships for me sounds like quite a bit of work I’m not really interested in, but I’m fine with having one lover and one slave.

I have added labour-pig to the BAV register for all the world to see, and laugh at! But could you provide brief reason(s) why you have made him a BAV in order to complete the entry?

“Mistress uninterested in sex with slave or men in general, and prefers slave’s performance when denied. Mistress’s girlfriend also disapproves of slave being permitted to penetrate Mistress. Erection-free since October 2025.” Does this work?

Again, thank you for emailing. It was wonderful talking with you, feel free to let me know if you have any more things you’d like to ask or chat about.
Mistress Ena