I have mentioned before that in some DS relationships the Domme ALWAYS prefers DS time to vanilla time. These are the most full-on DS relationships. This post is unlikely to be relevant to them.

Then there are the relationships like mine. I have my bitch-boy puppet toy on the shelf and, I can, anytime I want to, take him down from the shelf, abuse him and hurt him and humiliate him and make him very miserable for as long as I want. VERY AROUSING. (Apart from 24/7/365 chastity), the rest of the time I use bitch-boy for his vanilla attributes and company. Watching some great TV, great DVDs, fine food, travel, vanilla socialising, etc. So what is the point of this post? The quick little VERY REGULAR things that reinforce status during vanilla times.

Kissing my footwear EVERYTIME we are about to leave the house, leave the hotel room, leave the guest bedroom when staying at a vanilla friends house. I can look down and get the power rush the act provides, and he is reminded of his status. Importantly, a few words from me to remind him I own him and use him for what I want, whenever I want. Perhaps if the floor is tile or timber, drop a little spit from my mouth to be licked up by him before he rises. Or have him on his back and briefly wipe my soles over his tongue.

No pleases and thank you’s.  Its quite hard to train oneself out of saying please and thank you, but well worth it for use exclusively with your sub. All sorts of vanilla occasions when a request for something directed at your sub sounds to him like an order from his imperious Mistress, but sounds like a simple innocent request to those around you at the time. And even easier when he has brought something to you, to take it without acknowledgement of him, or thanks to him.

Any blog followers using any other quick and simple reminders of status during vanilla time?

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Source: Ms Scarlet

Mixed vanilla and DS life
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