This past weekend, my husband received a special treat. He was allowed to orgasm during sex with me. This is a rare occurrence for him. It might happen twice a year if he is lucky (and good!). He did not know it was going to happen until the very last second when I gave him permission. I could tell he prolonged his orgasm as much as possible and savored every second of it. I savored the moment too and it was amazing and wonderful. It is a very special and deeply intimate moment when two people in love orgasm together. It’s like you are touching each other’s souls and connecting on a deep emotional level. Perhaps I was tuned into that feeling because it is something that is a rare occurrence for me also. Often times when we do something frequently, we take it for granted and forget how special it is or lose touch with the good and positive feelings it generates within us.

Thomas gave up his right to an orgasm the day he agreed (or rather begged 😊) to be submissive to me. His orgasms are a privilege and not a right. Sex with me is an even greater privilege for him and only allowed when I decide. Most of the time he satisfies me through oral pleasure. When we do have sex, I am on top and in control and he has been trained to not move and not to expect an orgasm. As mentioned above, it is a rare occasion when he is allowed to orgasm during sex. This may seem strange and even cruel but it works for us. I have to admit that I get a rush out of using him for my orgasms while he is straining hard not to orgasm. It was not always like that for me. It took me awhile to realize that type of control and ‘domination’ is actually what Thomas craves. It took me awhile to let go and be selfish in my pleasure without worrying about his. In the end, it really is not selfish because as crazy as it sounds it is an even bigger rush for Thomas to be denied orgasm while I have one. It drives him wild and he loves it.

One final thought on the topic – I have read where some women will deny their husband sex altogether or may never let them orgasm during sex. There are two big reasons why I think it’s a better approach to limit sex rather than prohibit it. The first is the I believe the deep connection that occurs during sex when you orgasm together is beneficial for the relationship and a  very special and exciting experience. Second is that it makes the denial of orgasm for the husband that much tougher afterwards. When you give him a taste of something great, it’s hard to resist wanting more. The denial becomes harder and the hope grows within him that it will happen again. It’s a bitter-sweet motivator and so much fun!!

-Mz Kaylee



A Special Treat For Thomas