But what’s new? These here Burbs…… Ain’t about…….warm and fuzzy. You want warm and fuzzy… I’ll loan you my cushy floor length V.S. robe and Bugs Bunny slippers to wear and a shot Jack to warm your tummy. Welcome to the counter point cul de sac. Note:It’s not a tarp.It’s not a dead end.It is a circular drive. You go out the same way you came in. Sub titled (no pun intended) I can’t/won’t tell anyone how to do this… but I can offer advice on how to avoid the bad screwed up mistakes he/we made in the process of finding our way to a happy medium. I am pondering and pontificating at the end of the cul de sac this morning. Coffee [...]

More email….. It always makes me chuckle when my email content numbers take a jump after I blog about an email I received. Pardon me as I drop some one-hit wonders here as I excerpt some emails that I got in the last 16 hours or so.(Poking fun at myself there and the answers to follow…not my readers nor the ones who do take the time to email me.) Q) Your blog is an adult blog so why don’t you have links to other adult sites on your blog? A) I’m going to guess you are asking why I don’t have links to other sites that have erotica or porn? Some of the blogs in my blog roll do have erotica in them…..so [...]

And it continues: http://thesuburbandomme.com/2015/03/09/why-did-she-gets-so-upset-part-2/ I can only guess at why the wife in this equation is so upset. No I don’t think this husband expected the reaction he got. I don’t think this because I think he is a selfish jerk, I think this because he was excited about the idea and really believes in his heart…this is a good thing for both of them. He knows how it makes him feel and he wants her to feel the same things. He wants her to enjoy what he enjoys. We all want our partners to enjoy what we enjoy, right down to the ordinary things like our hobbies. It is part of why we are in a relationship…….to have someone to share our [...]

It starts here: http://thesuburbandomme.com/2015/03/08/why-did-she-get-so-upset/ I’m not anti-chastity. ~*~I am~*~ anti-pouncing on an unaware/uninformed partner with any kink idea. I don’t care what the kink is….. Unloading it on a partner who isn’t kink aware isn’t fair to the clueless partner.  I can’t (won’t) tell anyone how to have any kind of kink conversation with their partner. I might be able to tell them what not do do…what not to say…..might be able to help them form some kind of outline to use during the conversation…but I will not give a set of talking points on how to get any kink in play. Build your OWN talking points….from this “food for thought”. I strongly suggest you run fast and far from anyone who tells [...]

That was the title of the email… I opened it to read the sender had purchased a CB device and presented it to his wife as a “gift” and explained to his wife how it would help him be nicer to her, help him be a better partner for her. He went on to elaborate how he explained the details how the hornier he was…….. the more interest he had in pleasing her. How being horny made him want to make her happy. He said he felt this would be a good way to introduce her to FemDom and to her becoming his “Queen” in the near future. Oh….. but……wait…….. He assured me…….he hasn’t sprung that part of this awesome surprise on her. [...]

If you are a 50 Shades fan….I suggest you exercise your right to self-censoring. Close the blog now. I was so going to stay away from the 50 shades discussions……but four emails in the last 24 hours asking me what I think about it………..I am going in. (Shit’s only knee-deep……… if you go in head first) This will be a C&P reply for any and all who bring up that topic in my part of the burbs and in my burb mail box. Yes, I did read the books…….not because I was interested in the story line……..I read them because I am an advocate of SSC/RACK BDSM…….in order to combat a misinformed author thus a bad story line. SEE: http://thesuburbandomme.com/2013/02/10/s-s-c-r-a-c-k/ I read all [...]

I didn’t set out to be part of the BDSM fringe community. I was pulled in by a man who was so conflicted by his own interests it was tearing apart our lives. One thing I didn’t expect when I got pulled in into the BDSM lifestyle…was to become an advocate for debunking the myths that surround the lifestyle and the people who participate. I never expected to be dragging out my over used soap box to battle the ignorance that surrounds the lifestyle and people. *plops soap box soundly on floor* Reblogged:http://thesuburbandomme.com/2015/02/10/an-interest-in-bdsm-is-an-indication-your-spouse-is-cheating/ I’m not an authority on relationships…nor BDSM. I don’t need to be an authority on either one to see dangerous ignorance when it is right under my nose. The statement [...]