The key to spanking your man for dominance is to understand the power dynamic that you are creating. A woman taking control of her man’s body through spanking can be incredibly empowering for both of you. This plan is designed to help you explore this dynamic and create a powerful experience for both of you.
1. Start by talking with your man about your desires and intentions. Make sure he is on board and comfortable with the idea, and that he understands the rules and safe words you have agreed on.
2. Choose a spanking instrument that you feel comfortable with. This can be anything from a hand to a paddle, and anything in between. Make sure you practice with the instrument of your choice and become familiar with it before you spank your man.
3. Begin with light strokes and gradually increase the intensity. Start with a few soft strokes and build up over time. Be sure to pay attention to your man’s reactions and adjust your intensity accordingly.
4. Establish a set number of strokes. This can be anywhere from 10-100 strokes per session. Make sure you communicate with your man throughout and adjust the number of strokes if needed.
5. Have a safe word in place. This is extremely important and should be agreed upon before the spanking session. Make sure your man knows the safe word and is comfortable using it if needed.
6. Once you have spanked your man for the agreed upon number of strokes, take some time to check in with him and make sure he is feeling ok.
7. After the spanking session, reward your man with some pleasure. This could be anything from a massage to oral sex, or anything else you both agree upon.
8. Once your man is feeling relaxed and aroused, it is time to introduce a strap-on. This is a powerful way to take your dominance to the next level and can be incredibly empowering for both of you. Make sure to use plenty of lube and take your time.
I personally rarely ever peg my man until his ass is quite red. It is a bigger turn on for me, and him. Of course this might differ for many couples, but there is something very dominant for me to be looking down at the work I have done on his ass, while I fuck it good, long, and sometimes quite hard. Of course, we are always on the same page, and Paul loves everything I do when I spank and fuck him.
This is what Paul’s ass looks like most of the time right before I fuck him.
Finally, it is important to remember that this experience should be pleasurable for both of you. Enjoy the power dynamic you are creating and the confidence and sexiness that comes with it. This can be an incredibly liberating experience for a woman and can create a deeper connection and trust between the two of you.
I would love to hear if you have ever been spanked and fucked with a strap on. Be sure to tell me in the comments below. Also, I do not offer dominatrix services in Vancouver, but I know some amateurs that are not professionals that love to participate in this kind of thing. If you live in the Lower Mainland of BC, drop a comment about how you would like to be spanked and fucked, with some contact info, and maybe I can hook you up…….
My wife and I are located in the fraser valley, she is curious about Pegging and just starting to explore her dominate/switch side (she has been a sub for 6 yeara) she would love to have a guiding hand to show her how to dominate, spank and peg her husband.
We are both listening to files, researching which strap on she would like to try, she has been enjoying caging me and orgasm control plus having a tounge avaliable whenever she likes.
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For sale on PinkCherry.com; I would recommend “Her Royal Harness Rumbler ME2”.
It hurts a bit because it is rigid, but not too much. And it vibrates VERY HARD which is good for both of us. I take it 2 or 3 times a month.
Personally: I’m getting more than I bargained for. My wife is becoming more into Kink than I, but I’m the one who started it so it’s hard to back out of when she really enjoys it. She says things like; “Let’s just do strapon sex for a month or so, and you’ll get better at taking it. Then I can fuck you as hard as I want.” She likes to really slam me, while gripping my balls. It is so overstimulating that I think I’m going to faint, or die, or cum.
When I’m getting it, I feel so weak that I don’t think I could stand. Each thrust with that big dildo of hers is like a punch in the guts, and the feeling like I’m urinating, and maybe 5% of an orgasm. I get hot flashes.
Her birthday is this week, so she wants to give it to me really long and hard tonight. She wants me fastened to a metal bench we bought from etsy. “I’m gonna hurt you so bad. I’m gonna fuck you for an hour, with a noose around your balls.” exciting but scary. She wants me gagged so I can’t opt out when she gets going. I’m afraid she will see a humbler online and want one.
She gets some physical stimulation from the harness, because it vibrates VERY HARD. But mostly it’s the power she enjoys. When she is done fucking, she will lay down on the bed to be licked.