During the week, every morning when I wake up, I have a hot cup of coffee, breakfast, and neatly pressed clothes waiting for me.  After breakfast, Thomas cleans up after me and then goes upstairs to make the bed, while I am on my way to work. Soon after, he is off to work, wearing panties under his clothes. He is required to dress in panties every day. During the work day we typically do not text or talk with each other unless there is a need. When I return home from work, I prepare dinner. I enjoy cooking so it is not a chore to me. Thomas  gets to enjoy the luxury of having dinner ready for him when he comes home from [...]

Mike was kind enough to share a post on his perspective on the paradigm shift. Much of what he writes is consistent with what is experienced in our WLM.  I can also relate to how his wife was initially concerned about denying orgasm but now it is barely a thought :). My husband mentioned the other week that he could not remember the last time he had an orgasm but he knew it was more than 3 months. I hadn't even realized it. lol! It just seems normal to tease him without allowing an orgasm and for him to not orgasm during sex. Enjoy Mike's post.  -Mz KayleeI thought a few things could be said about the paradigm shift from the hub's perspective [...]

 The paradigm shift I wrote about in my last post is an advanced topic when it comes to WLM and something that can only occur in mature WLMs. I know from past comments that many of you are in mature WLMs and so I knew that some of you could relate to the idea and understand it. I was happy to read your comments. I am sure there are also many readers who did not fully grasp the concept or understand how it could work. That is perfectly fine. Even just a few years ago, I could not have wrote the post because I did not know enough to fully comprehend it, and I've been in a WLM for about 20 years.There are [...]

In a previous post, "Redirecting His Sexual Energy," I wrote about how sex for submissive men evolves into something new.  Here is a quote from that post:"His sexual pleasure comes from being controlled, being mentally fucked, and pleasuring and obeying her. That is his sex. It is constant arousal with a few burst of intense pleasure thrown in every now then. The submissive man does not have physical sex and orgasm as much as a man in a traditional marriage but his sex life is much better and more intense because his wife is constantly stoking his arousal and sexual energy. Most guys that experience this never want to go back to the traditional way."This concept resonated with many readers so I decided [...]

Khorina is a male reader of the blog and had contributed the thoughts below on male conditioning. I find this to be an interesting and fun topic. The techniques he describes below work and are great tools for a wife or girlfriend to have in her "dominant" toolbox. An example in my own marriage, is that early on in our WLM, I conditioned my husband to be aroused and excited from massaging my feet. Now whenever I demand a foot massage, he is very excited to do it and gets an erection before he even starts. He is always to be naked or in just panties when he massages me so there is no hiding his arousal.  I also experimented a bit with [...]

As I noted in a previous post, some of the rules and protocols that I used during Boot Camp with my husband, I decided to continue outside of Boot Camp. One rule that I've used regularly since Boot Camp is the no talking rule. At least once a week I designate a time frame when Thomas is not to speak unless I ask him a direct question. Sometimes it occurs on a weeknight after work and a few times I've used the rule all day on Saturday or Sunday. On days when talking is allowed, I've been working with him (code for training him) on only speaking when he has something of value to add that I want to hear. In other words, [...]

Below is a guest post from Mistress Kym on objectification. I am thrilled to share her post because she writes from the perspective of a female led relationship. As you know, my writings are based on my experiences in a wife led marriage. While both types of relationships (FLR and WLM) incorporate femdom and have similarities, there are also differences between the two and the dynamic in a FLR can be much different than a WLM. Thank you Mistress Kym for brining this perspective and sharing your thoughts. -Mz KayleeObjectification and femdom: what’s behind? First of all, I would like to introduce myself. I am Mistress Kym, a girl next door who became a domme and started a real and authentic 24/7 femdom relationship [...]

There has certainly been a lot of interest and chatter on the topic of cuckolding among the readers of this blog. If you've not read the comments in the last post on cuckolding, please do. The discussion has been enlightening. I'm delighted to share another real world experience of cuckolding from Debbie. Debbie is a regular reader of the blog and has submitted a few guests posts in the past. After reading through the comments on cuckolding, she was kind enough to share how cuckolding works in her marriage. Thanks so much Debbie!  Here is her post:I came across Mary's comments concerning cuckolding and felt it was a good opportunity to share some of my experiences with cuckolding David. David loves the submissive [...]

Earlier in the summer my husband and I had the opportunity to get away for a few weeks. One f the perks of working remotely is that you can work anywhere and so we decided to spend a few weeks away in order to get a change in scenery. It was the first time in a long while that we had "alone time" without kids or interruptions from family and friends.With the pandemic still going and having two teenagers in the house, it has limited the intimate time with my husband and the opportunities to do the more intense or kinky domination, which I enjoy and my husband craves. After we made plans to take the trip without the kids, it was no [...]

I know there have been issues where comments are not posting. I have removed the moderation of comments in order to help alleviate the problem. However, it sounds like some people are still having the problem. When I google the issue specific to Blogger, I've found that the problem probably relates to cookie tracking. The default setting in Incognito Mode is "Block Third Party Cookies in Incognito".  If you go to Settings and then Privacy and Security and un-check that option, it may resolve the issue. If you do that you may want to also turn on "Clear cookies and site data when you exit Chrome." This option is in the same setting menu.  This will help maintain your privacy when you exit [...]