Mistress Nicola visited again and through our emails since her first visit she had come to understand that I had not exposed to her my most EXTREME humiliations of bitch-boy; fearing the potential grotesqueness and weirdness of my approach may be too much for her. (While she has been into chastity control, bedtime control  and generous torture of her slave husband for several years, humiliation had not really featured to a great extent. She is delightfully sadistic when it comes to inflicting pain though, I have to say!) Well Mistress Nicola asked that I put bitch-boy through his very worst humiliations on her second visit. She was intrigued and imagined she would enjoy his misery. Obviously I was very happy to do so. Poor bitch-boy [...]

So far there has been universal agreement with the theory I set out in yesterday’s post, with one caveat. If the Domme makes it ABSOLUTELY clear to the submissive that the Domme is a sadist and many acts in which they partake are to satisfy their sadistic desires, then there is no need to verbalise their sadism. I will stress however that there must be no doubt in the mind of the submissive. Any such doubt should be eradicated by verbalising. If in doubt, verbalise. LINK to my published journals. LINK to my published BDSM manual. Source: Ms Scarlet Maximising the effect on the submissive (part 2)

I am interested in comments from true submissives on the following: (I define true submissives as those who recognised their submissiveness before they reached puberty; before the age of say 11, and who have desired domination ever since.) Recent experiences and some reading lead me to be convinced that the submissive’s PERCEPTION of the dominant’s cruelty is key to maximising effect. I highlight perception because it is more important than the cruelty itself. I stress cruelty is TAKING PLEASURE in inflicting discomfort. To give a real example: On any full-on domination day, bitch-boy will find himself in total sensory deprivation bondage (TSDB) for between one hour and six hours. (Up to six hours if I have a female submissive here for using and abusing). I could [...]

I know I do go on about ‘playing with his boy’s bits’. But it is something I do for between one and two hours each day I dominate bitch-boy. I have written about it before. LINK, LINK,  and posted a photo. I post about this pastime again today because I have made a small improvement for myself when doing this. The set up provides me with a view of bitch-boy’s butt, (should I momentarily look away from the TV screen), while teasing away relentlessly with my long, slim, skilled fingers. The last time I played with his boy’s bits, it followed a serious session of butt punishment with cane and quirt and bitch-boy’s but was red and puffy and well marked. I found this view [...]

I enjoyed a delightful few hours at the home of Mistress Nicola, humiliating and tormenting her slave husband. Mistress Nicola has definitely begun to enjoy humiliating submissive males as well as causing them physical discomfort. For instance, he spent a great deal of time in a purple tu-tu which seriously humiliated him and I taught him to curtsey and to mince. How shamed he was! Her poor husband now has a name he hates as a result of me. Wonderful. Throughout my visit, among other labels to shame with him I, a few times, called him a pansy-piece. Mistress Nicola emailed me following my visit to advise me she had decided to name him ‘pansy-piece’; as he was so shamed by the label. [...]

Well yesterday was many, many hours of using and abusing bitch-boy. Multi-orgasmic and delightful in every way, (for me; I am not sure bitch-boy feels the same!) And today, I am for the first time visiting the home of Mistress Nicola and her slave/husband. More perverse fun I am sure. Mistress Nicola and I have made our plans. As she, in the past, has not been so interested in inflicting humiliation as physical suffering, her puppet has not endured much in the way of humiliation. Of course, I LOVE inflicting humiliation. There will, among other things, be plenty of fun with impact implements and there will be a session of dickie-discipline. There will also be diapers and lockable plastic panties and lots of humiliation. I am so looking forward [...]

I received this wonderful comment (below) regarding the impact my manual has had on one couple. What a fantastic dominant woman. Hoping this would happen for a few people around the world was exactly what motivated me to write the manual. Dear Mistress Scarlet I feel that I must message you to let you know that your recent book has had the most wonderful impact on my marriage. As a submissive soul I have been a reader of your blog for sometime. However, with the publishing of your manual I felt I could no longer hide my submissiveness from my Wife and the manual gave me the confidence to broach the subject with her. My Wife/Mistress is the most amazing woman and I do [...]

My new Mistress friend I mentioned in my blog post of July 22 is visiting again this week. She is coming in the middle day of three solid days of use and abuse to which bitch-boy will be subjected to; with no vanilla time during that period. Mistress Nicola is quite the sadist and bitch-boy can expect to suffer considerably for her and my amusement and stimulation. Nettles will be a must as we are close to the end of the nettle season now. A sad time; but when nettles are out of season, the fall-back is Deep Heat roll-on and Linnex stick which are an excellent pair of substitutes! In fact, given the Linnex lasts AT FULL EFFECT  for about 40 minutes, [...]