Who is she??

Not something I have ever done before or am likely to do again, but my questions are; who is this woman? And from where do these GIFS originate? She is superb at serious degradation of the male and what delicious, long legs she has. LINK 1      LINK2          LINK3 And I love that she uses a dog catcher’s pole rather than a dog leash to control the location of the slave’s head. Source: Ms Scarlet Who is she??

Hotel satisfaction position

Regular blog followers or readers of my journals and BDSM manual will know I like to abuse bitch-boy for my orgasmic pleasure when in my hotel bedroom when travelling. In a hotel recently I made a small adjustment to my hotel room routine. It’s a small adjustment but brought me a little more pleasure and bitch-boy a little more subjugation, so I think worth reporting. (I should mention, as an aside, that most hotel rooms now have a walk-in shower. The room in question did. So bitch-boy was pissed on to begin my fun.) I secure a collar around bitch-boy’s throat and a cat collar through the D-ring of that collar which then secures bitch-boy’s wrists at his throat. He is laid on his back [...]

My Take on Cuckolding Fantasties

“So multiple people offered to throw in cash to get me to go to this event at $nerdhobby, I am so desired.” I’m not bragging, I’m surprised at my popularity and slightly bemused by the absurdity. His reaction is to miss a beat, face going suspicious, “Oh really? Who?” “The very gay $nerdhobbyguy, for one.” I know the implication, but I live with it and measure it accordingly. Boys offering you things is kind of par for the course as an extra level of social complexity to navigate. It sucks as an artist of any kind, because patronage is also how we wend our way, and nobody likes trying to suss out if you are trying to fuck me or support my writing. [...]

I am back to my blogging!

I am back online after the short break. More from me later. Source: Ms Scarlet I am back to my blogging!

And Some Things Still Suck

A good part of my life remains not about the sex, and with my decreased involvement in the BDSM community proper is leaves me flailing about a bit for where I stand on stuff. With Brick it’s something incredibly new, and hilariously, driven by my libido being several magnitudes over his (honeymoon phase he says. Ha. Nooooo this is who I am and that’s with a mild dose of SSRIs and their dampening effect.) But not all is sexy. So, the family shit. I am wrestling with my brother having landed in Montreal, sans means of support and in full psychiatric crisis mode.  It’s not easy. Without my guidance he basically flops out unable to even get basic social services, with very little [...]

Honestly, I Need To Get Fucked

I need you to fuck me in a way that makes me want to shred your skin and bruise you. I want to see you vulnerable and helpless and there’s the ache and the little niggling tinge of fear for me because to want something is to let yourself be open to the possibility of not having it. I want to be able to just take you. And to make you perform for me. I want to lure you in, to learn where all your buttons are, so that I can push them at will. It’s a potent, heady feeling when I zip up my leather boots and you get that look. Your tongue touches your lip and your eyes go unfocused and [...]

Fall Changes, Forward Motion and Endings

Lately it’s been a life lived in a general state of desire I’ve missed. I’m happy to have my lust back, happy to crave and want and not feel completely undesired although I have once again screwed myself (and not in the good way) via setting my wants on someone out of easy reach for their regular use. I’ve endeavored to sublimate that desire into productivity. My not so stable office gig finally tipped over, commanding I look elsewhere. There have been  a few auspicious leads, but just starting the process. So career shift joins the other life changes that this year brought. You already know I ended things with Wildcard. I also basically closed the door on my monthly munch, being more [...]

Femdom Review “The Butters” Oil Based Lube

I like this, but not for sex. From time to time, as a blogger, I’m privileged to get random free samples shucked my way, for the publicity my talking about it gives, and also beta testing. In the case of The Butters, an oil based lube, it is one of the nicest moisturizers I have ever tried, but… I don’t want to put it on my vulva, or give someone a hand job with it, or slick up a toy with it. I will happily rub it into my legs and face, but it is not a good sex product for me. And this brand does EVERYTHING right, so don’t think this is one of my little rants, like my disapproval of those [...]

A break in my blog posts

For reasons I need not mention, there will be a break in my posting of blog entries and moderating/publishing/responding to comments. The break will start in two or three weeks and will last for two to four weeks. After the break I will resume as normal. On a separate note, the volume of sales of my BDSM Manual have been very considerable; I guess because it is for any gender of dominant dealing with any gender of submissive it has mass appeal. So far I have only received positive comments. I do wonder if it has been featured on some BDSM book review site or similar to have become so popular so quickly.   LINK to my published journals. LINK to my published BDSM manual.     [...]

New York & Brick

I went to New York last weekend. Three days, two sleeps, flying down to Laguardia, waiting anxiously at the airport for him to arrive and the meet up, full of bounce as weeks of anticipation culminated in the hard impact of bodies next to the baggage carousel. The heat off us and the mist of lust kept us cocooned as my hands stroked his chest, my lips met his and my body insistently pressed. He was already hardening just from my touch, there, gooey but not pushing the bounds of good taste in public too far. We took a taxi to Manhattan, where our hotel sat just off Wall Street. I was in New York, one of my favourite cities and I didn’t [...]